"sexy modesty"

the other day in my american studies class, someone brought up the oxymoron inherent in the term "sexy modest" & it got me thinking

so i tweeted about it

& a friend of mine tweeted back & summed it up i think perfectly:

"Dress so boys will be physically attracted to you. 

But not too attracted. 

Because then sexual assault is your fault."

Here's the thing:

Modesty is an attitude, not a dress code. 

You can be immodest covered head to toe.

& you can be modest in a bikini.

It's cool if you're attracted to modesty, & it's cool that girls [& boys] know they don't have to dress a certain way to get boys [or girls] to like them, 
but that's the point - you don't have to dress ANY way - "modest" or immodest - to get people to like you. 

Do it for yourself & for God. 

Don't dress modestly to be "sexy". 

That defeats the point.