what is love?

baby don't hurt me..... ;)

So I re-read The Four Loves today
& it gave me some food for thought.

for a few weeks i've been trying to decide how to love somebody and if/when to just give up. trying to do what's healthy for me and what God wants for us.

this is what I read:

"We shall draw nearer to God, not by trying to avoid the sufferings inherent in all loves, but by accepting them and offering them to Him; throwing away all defensive armour. If our hearts need to be broken, and if He chooses this as the way in which they should break, so be it."

"It is probably impossible to love any human being simply "too much." We may love him too much in proportion to our love for God; but it is the smallness of our love for God, not the greatness of our love for the man, the constitues the inordinacy."

"In everyone, and of course in ourselves, there is that which requires forbearance, tolerance, forgiveness. The necessity of practising these virtues first sets us, forces us, upon the attempt to turn - more strictly, to let God turn - our love into Charity."

So i'm turning this over to God. asking Him to turn this "love" into Charity. offering Him everything (or trying to.) praying for increased love for Him & others. we'll see how this goes :)